18 Responses to “The Self-Psychology Conversation”


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  1. I like this and what a unique idea! Taking the time to actually face “you” in a detached way to get to the root of what is really going on. Many of us do this with others, but taking the time to do it for us is freeing… ;-)

  2. > miss a key ingredient you need and want
    Finding those missing ingredients is a powerful thing.

  3. When I was working as a pscyhologist I had clients do this. I believe it’s a Gestalt technique. It always blew my mind how effective it was.

  4. This. Is. Brilliant.

    I actually used a very similar technique in my intuitive business that I got from a colleague, however what we did was in meditation and more like having a conversation between your higher self and your good old self down here (ego). I suspect that the way you set this up will get at the exact same thing but will be easier for people to understand and relate to.

    • The self, mental, higher, or plain emotional, is one we would be wise to fully explore and communicate with Julie. When we come together I find life soon follows!

  5. I enjoyed how you’ve highlighted the “in” in the words “inspiration”, “insight” and “happiness”. It’s truly an insight job. Thanks for sharing the steps to talking with our inner critic! It’s very useful!

  6. John,

    As you say, “If you want INspiration and INsight and happINess, you have to go inside.” I really love how you put this. Most peoples problems stem from a lack of clear self-awareness. When we don’t have self-knowledge and a clear understanding of what we want and why we want it, decision making becomes very difficult. We all need a check up from the neck up at times.

    • Like that Joe; “A check up from the neck up”. But we’re also more than our head too – we’re all beautiful bits inside and body wise and I agree self-awareness is the key to life mastery more than anything else.

  7. Wonderfully empowering exercise John. Self talk is a healthy, and effective way to become centered and to explore what is living under the surface of our daily thoughts and actions.

    Thanks for suggesting,


    • Alex, I firmly believe we’re not as deep (for that read confusing) as people percieve, but if you only touch the shallow you’ll never know. A simple self-chat can sort out that!

  8. That’s a powerful exercise, John. If we look deeply enough, we discover that most of our unsolvable problems stem from one core problem, and when we find the core problem – we discover “it is me!” For me, Walt Whitman sums it up brilliantly in one sentence: “You have not knows what you are, you have slumbered upon yourself all your life.” Thanks for sharing this.

    • True Rob that on most occasions we are both the problem and the solution. In this exercise you get to experience what each side is like. And fix it!

  9. This is very interesting. I am going to have to try it. Although, I am not sure how good I will be at it. I think it will allow me to really think out my thoughts. The trick here for me will be doing this before something really upsets me. Sometimes I don’t think through what is bothering me, once I explode and look back I realize how silly it really was. Hmmm. Thanks for sharing.

    • Perhaps the explosion Meg is because you have a voice inside that gets so unheard it has to burst out some way to get your attention. Trying this duel conversation may lead to an altogether calmer result and more understood ‘you’.