7 Positive Ways To Mend A Broken Heart
Having a broken heart hurts like hell.
You can’t eat. You can’t sleep. You have no interest in anything and all you can think about is your lost love and all the good times that you will never have again.
I know – I’ve been there many times and not so long ago either.
At such times it’s tempting to think you will never ever be happy again or find love like the love you once had. You may be thinking that right now.
But love is so special you shouldn’t give up on it. Out there is someone for everyone and so to help you move on and find that wonderful partner here are 7 upbeat ways to mend your broken, but healable, heart.
A step by step guide to bouncing back and letting true love find you
1. Don’t look back
Once relationships end it’s natural to be sad and remember all the fun and loving times you spent as a couple. To sentimentally reminisce. But, do that for too long and you will only be adding fuel to the flame of your pain.
So, take a deep breath and briefly remind yourself of how great your love affair was and then stop. Don’t look back. Your life and love is waiting and every moment you stay in your past, your fabulous future can’t happen.
2. Cry it out
When your heart is broken you feel like you want to cry forever. Tears flood out almost uncontrollably and you can’t seem to stop them. Don’t try – let them out. It may seem uncaring to say that this is good for you but it is. If you hold them in or try to pretend you are strong (that means YOU macho men), it keeps the pain stuck inside you too. Much as it feels horrible to burst into tears every 5 minutes it acts as a release of all the pent up pain and desolation. Don’t lock it in, let it go. Very soon you will feel better trust me. I’m proud to say as a guy that I’ve practiced this one….a lot.
3. Surround yourself
At times like this you will want to shut yourself away from the world and everyone in it. You feel lousy and vulnerable. Understandable. But soon you will need support. Familiar faces and friendly arms that care about your feelings and you as a person. Reach out and surround yourself with good friends or members of your family to talk to, be with and share how you are coping. Being alone doesn’t mean going it alone. They will help you put a smile back on your face again. Because someone does love you – you know who to call!
4. Tell yourself – ‘I’m worth better’
This isn’t about criticising your past partner. It’s about regaining your confidence. Not believing you are worthless but worth so much more than you’ve gone through (this applies equally to any difficult time in life as well as love). You deserve love and don’t deserve what’s currently killing you inside. Keep your chin up and know that the pain will pass and that you can give it a good helping hand. If you dream of a life partner raise your sights and know that you truly are worthy of someone worthy of you. You are you know!
5. Wish them well
A broken heart follows a broken relationship. That often brings out bitterness with blame and counter blame. Love can turn to recrimination or anger surfaces once the initial hurt has subsided. You hurt so badly it’s easy to hurt back. But to do so keeps that hurt lingering in your life and can damage health. Find it within you to wish them well even if it’s just in your mind. This creates positive closure and enables you to walk away with your dignity and respect. And it stops you being weighed down by the ‘baggage’ that holds back so many a heart.
6. Invest in yourself
Difficult as it is this is time for a new start. Such moments offer an opportunity to invest in yourself even forming a new you. As healing comes about put energy into re-inventing your life and yourself. Follow some passions you love. Get a make over or change of image if you have the urge. Take up fresh interests to meet new people or to update your skills. Go places and travel. Make things new and that includes your attitude and outlook to life. Invest in your own life and you will reap the rewards. The self belief you develop will make you more attractive too!
7. Love again
Yes, you will! Right now you are a million miles from it but as one of those that believes that love means so much, you simply have to return to it. It’s in your romantic genes and your human DNA. Be rest assured that all the lessons you have gone through will help make love smoother and likely to succeed. So trust in love. Let it find you again one day. All you’ve experienced so far is what love is NOT. You are moving closer every day to what love IS till one magical meeting when love comes to stay – forever! That could be tomorrow and it will make every tear you have shed worth it. Because love is waiting for you.
The pain of a broken heart is indescribable. Because love is so vital. It gives us life. Keeps us breathing and growing. But when some love ends not all does. Love never dies – it’s everywhere. And that includes in your life. It WILL come your way again.
If you are heart is broken right now try these 7 positive ways to love again and let me know how you got on. Be kind to yourself and I wish you all the love in the world.
How did you get over a broken heart? What tips do you have to mend after a relationship ends? I’d love to hear how you found love once more.
Image courtesy of Olga Bocanegra