8 Reasons Why You Should Never Give Up
I was once very fed up.
So very fed up that I had become acutely depressed and deeply despondent. So much so that I found myself on New Year’s Eve with a large knife to put myself out of my misery.
I figured that all my problems were proof that the world didn’t want me and that I was destined never to be happy. Leaving this life looked like the obvious answer.
It seemed the only way out. It wasn’t and it isn’t.
When we’re down or frustrated the whole world appears against us. Nothing goes right and whatever we try more failure or setbacks come our way.
We are tempted to throw in the towel and give up once and for all.
Well on that day that suicide came to call, I decided not to give up. Or give in. Instead I fought back and started again. It was the best thing I have ever done. Not least because I stayed alive but also chiefly because I learnt that when you are down you are not out. That when the going gets tough you have to stubbornly think, “Tough”, to your pain and hang on in there and win in the end.
So when you feel like giving in here’s 8 good reasons why you shouldn’t!
1. It could be the making of you
Some difficult situations demand the best of you. They test your mettle. When times are good and all is going smoothly it’s tempting to sit back and let things slide. Harder days challenge you to unlock your highest attributes and characteristics and show who you really are and what you are capable of. To get to show the world what you are made of.
You could be a major inspiration to others.
2. All could change for the better at any time
Sure, right now it stinks. But it could all alter in a blink of an eye. If you keep striving and searching at some point a breakthrough will occur. That could be today, tomorrow or in the next hour. You don’t know but why walk away when the turn of the tide could come at any moment?
Just ask Winston Churchill during the dark days of 1940!
3. Tomorrow is another day
Today hurts. Today your emotions are all over the place. You are lost and feeling beaten. Who hasn’t at some point? But that’s only today. Tomorrow hasn’t happened yet. Take a look at tomorrow’s date. It’s never existed before. It’s a brand new day. And with it can come brand new answers and information and the tide turns. The past has always given way to the future and tomorrow yours could be very bright.
Tomorrow could be the day you’ve waited for.
4. There could be unseen forces working on your behalf
When we are under the cosh we feel alone. Typically we think if we can’t solve it then it can’t be solved at all. But, in reality, most situations actually sort themselves out in the end. Changes in the lay of the land come about. Friends we have told about our sorrows secretly help out in the background. Rules and laws alter in our favour. People causing us distress get found out and brought to book. Unknown information gets given us and switches everything.The unseen may be working with you all along.
No news can be great news.
5. You are fine tuning your brilliance
In truth we would rather not have bad stuff come our way. But, when it does, it makes us improve. Streamline our lives and drop potential bad behaviour, habits or attitudes. Or stop being plain lazy or undisciplined. We have to work through the issues just like Thomas Edison famously did to invent the lightbulb. It took him 10,000 attempts to do it but, as he said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. He fine tuned the lightbulb and his own determination and succeeded in the end.
Your problems are positives in disguise – your own personal lightbulb moments.
6. It could be a wake up call
Not all problems are hassles without a meaning. Some are caused by ourselves. Whilst we want the quickest doorway out of darker periods they make actually point to how we have been long damaging or sabotaging our own life. Continued nightmare scenarios are a sign that we need to take a good hard look at what we may be doing. They are the effects but we are the cause. If darkness persists maybe it’s time to shed light on the real source?
Some wake up calls start with an alarm first.
7. Because things can only get better
In the midst of a crisis it’s pretty horrible. But, wait a minute. Granted everything is crap right now and you feel the same but from here things can only get better. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. From this low point there’s only one way. Up! Yes, it’s been a rollercoaster ride but every rollercoaster finally stops and you will get off. Good times are going to roll in. Bit by bit the pressure will ease and the smiles return and you are going to feel plain fab that you’ve seen it through, made it out the other side and won the day.
When all seems lost remember the only way is up.
8. It’s just meant to be
Some may not find huge solace with this one but life sometimes gives us curve balls. Much as we’d love to avoid it certain events have destiny written over them. That includes great times as well as the less than happy. They come out of nowhere and disappear just as bewilderingly. In a strange relief it’s good to accept this. It’s something you have to go through and experience. It WILL shape your character and alter your outlook as well as teach you much. It can’t be planned or side stepped and though it feels personal, it’s not. Many will tell you. They’ve been through it. But they’ve survived and that was also meant to be.
What’s meant to be is meant to be.
Life is a test now and again. That’s a given. I know. I had some dark years of the soul. Hellish days that I thought would never end. Leading to a life I decided to end. But I didn’t. I hung on in there because something inside me knew that I shouldn’t give up. That in those tormented times something special was happening to me and that one day I could tell others in the sunshine.
As I write this the sun is shining. On my smiling face. I made it and so can you. Don’t give up PLEASE because you have every reason not to. And the main one is you. You will shine and good times will come again. Back then I was promised that one day I would cry tears of happiness. Today writing this post the promise was kept. I promise you one day you will do the same.
If you have a trouble to share or a story of how you never gave up please share it. We all help each other.
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